My point being, you’re not a robot. You’ve hopefully already experienced every emotion in life that you’re capable of feeling; happiness, hurt, euphoria, jealousy, unworthiness. I say ‘hopefully’ as you’re meant to have felt them. They’re what make you grow. Each one forces you into facing a new emotional experience – some more challenging than others, albeit still very important.
How many times have you looked at someone and compared yourself to them? How they look, act, what they possess, how much they’re worth financially. We all do. And it’s destroying us. We’ve got to learn how to stop comparing ourselves to other people and instead learn how to focus on becoming a happier, more content human being.
Not good. But the punchline? IT’S NOT REAL. Social media is ALL propaganda. Hashtag overuse of #LivingMyBestLife and #IWokeUpLikeThis. No, they did not. They took 150 selfies, and FaceTuned the shit out of the one that made the cut. It’s literally all smoke and mirrors, because someone’s perfectly curated Instagram feed does not ever (and I mean, ever) portray what is actually happening in that person’s life.
How often have you posted a selfie with a grin the size of the Grand Canyon accompanied with a cheesier-than-cheddar caption, and inside you were heartbroken? How often has someone asked you at work how you are, and you want to break down in tears but mutter through gritted teeth that “everything’s great”? You do it too. You don’t want everyone to know what’s really going on. Why would anyone else therefore, be any different?
“You cannot compare your raw, uncut, behind-the-scenes version to someone else’s highlight reel”
Is it really fair to compare your life to someone else’s, when you don’t know the full picture? All you do is devalue your own worth, and that is seriously damaging to your soul. You’re comparing your entire transcript to someone else’s synopsis, which is only going to encourage feelings of unworthiness and self-loathing. It’s affecting your sense of existence.
Other people’s accomplishments should not be the barometer from which you analyse yourself. Every single person on this planet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Mental health and emotional vulnerability has just become such a taboo subject that no one feels that they can open up about what’s really going on. It needs to change.
“What you fail to realise, is that someone looks at you every day and wants what you have”
How have you grown? Are you a better person? What have the past 12 months taught you? What are you grateful for? The only person you should be sizing yourself up against is the person you know best. You cannot run from yourself. You cannot kid yourself into being someone that you are not. You cannot filter over your life and view things through rose-tinted glasses.
And that is OK. You need to be OK with that being OK. Would you rather accept that your life is never going to be perfect, or continue trying to impress people that you don’t really care about? People you will probably never even meet. Are they really who you will think of as you take your last breath?
“Would you rather accept that your life is never going to be perfect, or continue trying to impress people that you don’t really care about?”
There is only one of you in this world honey. And the world only needs one of you. She is not prettier than you. He is not more successful. They are not #BossingIt harder. You are bossing you. And there is no one who can boss you harder, than you.